Friday, April 25, 2014

Sexual Assault Awareness Month & Day of Action

Sexual assault is something that is so prevalent in society yet many people don't believe it because it's not something that necessarily gets media attention unless some big star is involved or is some other high-profile case.  Here in Tallahassee, the Sexual Assault Response Team (SART), Refuge House, the FSU community, and other communities are trying to do more about it.

This coming Monday, April 28, 2014, from 6:00-8:00, Refuge House is holding it's Day of Action at Lake Ella.  Here is what they say about the event:

Be inspired and show your support for survivors of sexual assault at the annual Refuge House Sexual Assault Awareness Month Day of Action. This year, our focus is Self Care and Healing for Survivors. Keynote speaker Monekka Monroe is a survivor of sexual assault offering a message of unity and strength. Join us as we share the many ways that survivors have created meaning and power for themselves and other victims of rape. Poetry, zumba, drumming circles, art. Music by Sistahs with love.


I encourage you, if you have time, to attend the event.  It is free and will be a great opportunity for the community to see the impact sexual assault has on individuals, families, friends, and the community at large.

"A Terrible Thing Happened"

I wanted to share this book that I have used and know many other counselors have used with children who have experienced some sort of crisis or trauma.  It's called "A Terrible Thing Happened." The great thing about this book is that any child can relate to it, no matter what they experienced, because it never directly states what the "terrible thing" is, so instead children can identify with it with their particular circumstances.  When you read this book with children, they'll usually say things like "that's me!" or "I felt that way" or something along those lines.  I highly recommend it for parents, clinicians, and anyone working with children.


Tuesday, April 22, 2014

New Website!

Here is my little plug for my new website I created that goes in conjunction with this blog! Introducing:

childrenandfamiliesincrisis.weebly.com

Please let me know what you think about it.  I've never created a website before and am open to suggestions!  I am pretty well pleased with what I have come up with though.

On this website will be additional information [that I can hopefully add and update often] that is in addition to this blog, and does not necessarily include my own thoughts or something that I came across that week, but concrete information for services and ideas pertaining to crisis situations.

Enjoy!


Flexibility

If I have come to learn anything about the mental health field, it is to be flexible.  Especially in crisis; there can't be rigidity.  If you're flexible with the individual, and even more so with the situation and that absolutely anything can happen at any moment, it will be the most beneficial to that person in crisis.

I've had some cases when we've worked weeks on something in particular, and then another crisis happens in the family, and we have to pause to address that crisis.  This messes up my plans a lot.  But it is okay!  To be available during those difficult times is what I am there for.

I hope that everyone who experiences crises in their lives (which is all of us at some point) has someone that they can turn to that is willing to be flexible and understanding.  I have friends call me up when I am in the middle of a reading, or homework, or about to fall asleep, but if they call me in a crisis, I put that book down, or pause the homework, or wake up to listen, because I know they need someone.

I believe in Paying It Forward, too. If you can be available to someone else in their time of need, they will [hopefully] be available to you as well when you need it.

I encourage you all to be, as Elasta-Girl from Disney's Incredibles says, a little more flexible.


Thursday, April 10, 2014

Self-care

One important thing for anyone to remember, whether you are a counselor that deals with crises on a regular basis, or you are going through crises of your own, is self-care.  We have to find those things that can help us to cope.  They don't need to be concrete counseling skills, but anything that helps you get the endorphins you need to be happy, or to make you laugh when all you want to do is cry.

I have certain self-help strategies that I'd like to share with you.  They help me immensely when I've had a long day, or am experiencing a crisis of my own, or are worried about others.

1. Running.  I just completed my first half marathon in February.  I worked up to it for about 8 months.  Running at least 3 times a week kept my spirits high, my endorphins high, and my stress low.

2. Big Bang Theory.  Everyone has their tv show. This is mine.  Every episode makes me laugh.  Luckily my roommate has the first 5 seasons on DVD and I have the 6th season, so I have countless hours.  After a long day when I couldn't sleep, I was up at 4am watching Big Bang Theory.  When I was done watching, I fell asleep immediately.

3. Friends.  I have some friends I can count on to let me vent, to help me process things, and to make me laugh.  I owe them big time.

4. Supervisors.  Working with crises every day can be emotionally draining.  My supervisors have been wonderful in checking in on me and offerring encouragement and help when I need it.  All counselors, whether you've been doing it for just a few months or 20+ years should have someone in the field they can confide in.

5. Prayer.  I have an Adoration chapel down the street from my house that is open 24/7.  I go there when I get the chance, especially during crises.  Whether you believe in God or a diety or any kind of higher power, it brings comfort and peace, and it definitely helps me.  Having my faith has helped me get through the rough times and to be a better counselor for my clients.

What are your coping skills?

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Responding to a crisis

A new movie I watched recently was Captain Phillips.  I think that Tom Hanks did an amazing job, and really moved the audience with his acting.  It's hard to imagine that this actually happened!

I am discussing this movie because I recently did a project on Hostage Negotiations, and as I am specifically interested in crisis counseling, this movie struck a chord with me.  Take a look at this video, right after Captain Phillips had been rescued, and the amazing job that this crisis worker does.  She implements the appropriate skills and tries to make him feel safe, and let's him take his time.  Just amazing.

Warning:  this video is quite the tear-jerker!


Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Top 10 Pinterest Boards



Here are my Top 10 Pinterest Boards, specifically for counselors.  Any of these can be use specifically in crisis, or with children and families in general, or really with any clients in general.  I give each and every one of these boards 5 STARS because I think all of the resources are great, and with Pinterest it’s easy to pick and choose what you want to use!  So.... Enjoy!

1.       Counseling Tools
by Lisa Nieves

This pinterest board provides great resources for counselors who need fresh, innovative and creative ideas to use with clients.  One example provided that I personally pinned is this Behavior reflection.  It helps children understand their behaviors, how they are not okay, their feelings in relation to the behavior, and how they can change the behavior.  Great CBT work right here!


2.       Psychology/Social Work

This pinterest board provides tools for counseling to further their knowledge and understanding of different counseling topics.  For example, below is a diagram of attachment styles that is clear and concise and easy to understand, explaining how the parent and child react in different parenting styles.


3.       Psychotherapy, Psychology, and Wellness Blogs, Videos, Slideshare & Books

This board provides items you can provide your clients to help improve their moods and give them some skills to relax and cope.  This is more of an inspirational board, as you can see from this pin with the following quote, “Sometimes what you’re most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.”  I myself like finding these type of inspirational quotes on Pinterest!  With over 1365 pins on this board, there’s a lot to look through!


4.       Counseling and Mental Health Tips and Tools

I like how this board discusses different presenting problems we may see as counselors, and tools we can use to help clients overcome these presenting problems.  I think that this pin in particular about Positive Thinking is a great visual to see how we can change our thoughts and utilize meditation to overcome any negative thoughts.  It also briefly describes the different types of thinking errors or cognitive distortions.


5.       Psychoeducational Self-Help Worksheets/Handouts

If you haven’t noticed at this point, the last 3 boards are all from the same Pinner, but differentiated based on topic and utility.  Here are some great worksheets and handouts anyone can use if they were to come across this board, as well as what we as counselors can use to provide our clients.  Most of these pins require that you click on the pin to then be taken to the webpage that it was taken from.  For instance, this pin, when clicked on, brings you to a three part video series, but you have to make sure to click on the pin as the videos don’t show up on Pinterest alone!


6.       Psychology ~ love it

This board provides a lot of great resources specifically for counselors working with children!  I love the ideas I have found on this board and have implemented some of them myself, including this idea for Jenga, where you write questions or feelings words on the pieces which the person that then chooses that piece must answer or describe.  This is very effective with kids!


7.       Anxiety/Stress Counseling

Something many people deal with following crisis or trauma is anxiety and/or stress.  Here is a great board for activities, skills, and resources for anxiety and stress counseling.  Here is an example of “tossing away your anxiety” with a paper airplane.  This is great! It’s something creative for kids to do, and also gets them talking about their anxieties!


8.       Counseling

Here is another board with information and resources for counseling that easily describes things we must all know about!  For example, here is an easy-to-read and appealing look at antidepressant medications that are common and their side effects.  If you have clients worried about medications, or want to know more information, this would be a great handout!


9.       Mental Health

I have pinned from this board frequently.  This is particularly useful for working with children.  I particularly like the emotion thermometer.  There are quite a variety of versions of thermometers you can use, but this was breaks it down quite easily.  Even more so, you can utilize this one for specific instances that happened where you need a feel of where on the scale they are in that moment or when something in particular occurred.


10.   Counseling

Lastly, I wanted to put in a little push for my own Counseling Pinterest board! I have yet to come up with some sort of clever name for the board, but I feel as though I’ve found some really great items on here!  There’s nothing in particular about this board other than I have found some sort of use for everything there for counseling purposes, whether it be a worksheet/activity, inspirational quote, or information to look at later.  Take a look and enjoy!